What are You Thinking?

By Miss Adventure

I have to admit that I was mistaken. I had told Miss Demeanor this last weekend that I had not been asked out by a man in OC this last year outside of the internet. I was wrong. I was asked out, not all that long ago by a man. So, let me take you back to the day...

...It was warm and I was out for a early afternoon stroll with my darling doggy around the lake. It was a nice afternoon and I was in no hurry. Every now and then, I will see a dog that looks a lot like mine, and not knowing what breed mine is completely, I usually will easily fall into conversation with the parent of said dog. So, along comes a dog that looks like mine and when the gentlemen began a discussion with me, I was happy to comply.

First the discussion was about the dogs...then it became more personal. He started to talk about how he had moved back to be near his son who I was surprised to find out was in elementary school because I expected his son must be at least in college. Somewhere around this point I began to feel this conversation may be turning in a direction I wasn't wanting it to but I played it off and pretended interest in his life story. He talked about how he remembered Orange County years ago when there was nothing but fields....and this point I made sure to interject that my parents also talk about that to make sure he understood I had parents old enough to experience the same as him - because he was at least as old as they were! This man looked older than my father!!! Was he really trying to impress me?

He continued to go on and on about his own life giving me the run down and then eventually starts to talk about how he is dating a teacher, but it's not serious...she's not his girlfriend....he's not ready to be serious after the last ex-wife. I'm scrambling my brain trying to figure out how I can politely but quickly end this whole encounter. Before I could, he did it...he said he didn't know if we could drink wine at the lake (to which I quickly interjected that no, you can't drink wine at the lake) but he continued..."if you are interested..."

No! I am not interested. You are older than my father. I am at least thirty years your junior! Are you kidding me? Do I look that desperate? Or are you just that bold? Okay...I know the cougar thing is in right now, but I am not into a reverse cougar thing....I am not even into being a cougar! I don't get these kinds of relationships! Sorry, I realize that one of my favorite authors had romances between much older men and young women - but that was the norm 200 years ago! I want someone who will be around and be able to actually play with my children - I don't want to be diapering my child AND my husband at the same time.

So, I'm not sure what is worse - not being asked out at all or being asked out by creepy men?

...just another experience of a single woman in her thirties...