Yes, It Has Happened to Me

By Miss Adventure

One of the first things I'd like to share with you all is a moment in my life that I thought only happened on TV or in the movies. A few years ago, I received a letter in the mail from my grandmother. I opened the fat envelope and in it was an article, several pages long, that I'm sure is from a magazine published in the late 80's. The title was something like, "What's Wrong with Me? Why Can't I Find Someone to Love." Honestly, I don't remember the exact title, but it was something like that. My grandmother was cleaning out old magazines and found this article and thought of me. It had several tips about how to meet a man. It did actually say that there was nothing wrong with me even though I hadn't found the right man yet. Pheww!!! That's reassuring...there's nothing wrong with me even though I AM single.

Now, I know my grandmother did not mean anything by it and really thought she was being helpful. I did not take offense, but I did get a really good laugh out of it. In fact, I posted the whole article on the refrigerator I shared with my two other single roommates in a house where we often welcomed many other singles. I also know that my grandmother does not think there is anything wrong with me. She just thought I might like to read it. My grandmother is an amazing farm women almost ninety now. She did meet and marry the love of her life and they were together until the death of my grandfather parted them. I know she merely wishes for me to find the same happiness she did. And I would like to find that same happiness, but so far it hasn't gone so well.

I think that is a common question single people ask, "What's wrong with me?" I am here to tell you to stop asking that question. We all have our quirks and things we need to work on. None of us are perfect and there is always room for improvement. Does that mean we are not marriage material? No! If that were the case no one would be married.

If you are like me, and I'm a little ashamed to say this, you have probably looked at someone before and thought, "How did they find someone and I haven't?" Comparing ourselves is no good and it is a place we shouldn't go. Some good self-reflection and working to smooth out those rough spots we all have is a good place to go - not because our ultimate goal is to catch that perfect man (because ladies there is no such thing!), but because we want to be best we can be in the way God created us!

Striving to be Christ-like is where we should be focused - not striving to be "good marriage material". I know some pretty amazing women who are great "marriage material" because they strive to be like Christ. I've known some of them for years. It is not because they are not worthy that they are still single, it is because for whatever reason, God has so far had other plans for them. As they stay focused on Christ, they stop comparing themselves, asking why, and instead lead happy, fulfilled lives of single women!

P.S. - This is where I'd love to hear any of your funny stories similar to mine.